Sure, they talked on the phone or maybe sent the occasional letter, but the core of their relationship centered on face-to-face interactions.A subtle shift seems to be occurring in today’s dating relationships and it warrants our attention.My friend, who lived strictly by the rule that you should not double text for fear of looking too “thirsty,” as the kids call it, was aghast. My now-boyfriend has been teased for “texting like a girl,” but it was immediately one of my favorite things about him.I am an effusive texter, and in past relationships I would get frustrated when my multi-text theses would be answered with “yeah” or “sure.” I needed someone who was just as willing to give themselves carpal tunnel as I was.Often the disappointment is centered on feeling let down when the person you meet is compared against your original assessment behind the technology.Many of my clients have returned from their dates telling me that the person they met seemed entirely different than the person they emailed or texted with extensively.My friend and I had just seen a play and, like everyone else in the theater, I took out my phone as the curtain came down.
Texting too much before you meet your date in person can make it more difficult to connect in person.
A major problem associated with too much texting between you and a romantic interest you have not met is that by the time you actually hear each other’s voices or meet in person, you have inaccurate perceptions and assessments of each other.
Therefore, you are more likely to be disappointed at the initial meeting.
I’ve had girls get back to me THREE DAYS LATER…even THREE MONTHS LATER, “Yeah. Most hot women have men orbiting on standby, dicks in hand.
Just because you would leave work early and drive to the next city on siphoned gas to get laid doesn’t mean a thing to her.